Letting Go Of Control


Many people fail to realize that when we are dependent on a chemical or some other impulsive behavior we actually give our control to that thing.  Retail therapy gives control to spending; we feel better, temporarily, after purchasing an item.  Pornography is used to escape uncomfortable feelings or “take a break” and our control is given away for a “sexual” experience.  By using something to escape from life, the individual fails to be responsible for them and gives away control to whatever it is, they are using in place of God.

The Apostle Paul wrote to the Ephesians regarding this topic, in Ephesians 5.  Paul warns the Ephesians to refrain from drinking too much wine as to avoid drunkenness.  Paul wrote, “Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery” (5:18, NIV).  In this sense, “debauchery” refers to living excessively, with dissipation, and riotously; these are not qualities that lead to prudent living or peace, joy and grateful hearts.  Ultimately, Paul is writing that those who “drink wine to intoxication” are controlled by the wine and if that is true, we could say that when we use anything excessively we are giving it control over us.

So what then does it mean to let go of control when we apparently give away our control all the time?  First, let us consider why we use chemicals, over eating, or another form of numbing.  It is that we use these “numbing agents” and mistakenly believe we are in control.  When I feel sad and lonely, I get drunk and the genuine emotions go away, replaced with numbness.  However, I do not register the numbness because my head tells me I had fun.  The fun is a feeling I experience because of the lack of sadness and loneliness and those feelings wear off with the effects of the alcohol.  The use of alcohol (or any other numbing agent) gives me a false sense of control.  Therefore, letting go of control means that I can no longer be in control of numbing, I must give control to God.

Paul not only instructs the Ephesians to refrain from drunkenness but also instructs them on where to place control.  Paul wrote about not being filled with wine but being filled with the Holy Spirit.  In being filled with the Holy Spirit, we rely on Christ to be our comfort instead of relying on numbing agents to comfort us.  This does not mean that we lie around waiting for God to, magically transform us; it means that we discover God’s truth through His Word and apply it to our lives.

At Rocky Mountain Neurotherapy and Counseling, located in Loveland, CO, we assist clients in their journey to discover God’s truth and how to apply it to life.  Recovery from any of life’s hurts or addictions can become complete when we let go of control and focus on our Creator to answer the questions we have in life.  What I personally discovered is when I let go of my need to control, rely on Christ, I actually feel a genuine sense of being in control.

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