Healing from Self-Deception
One common characteristic of humans is to deny our shortcomings, mistakes, and the impact we have on others. 1 John 1:8 reads, “If we say that we have no sin, we are deceiving ourselves and the truth is not in us.” Self-deception can keep us from growing and reaching our full potential. It will also keep us from living in the middle of God’s will.
When counseling clients here at Rocky Mountain Neurotherapy and Counseling, we address the issue of self-deception, highlighting the importance of being honest with yourself and others. So many relational issues stem from failing to realize the impact a person has on others and how denial can lead to self-sabotage and other self-defeating behaviors. The skill of learning how to be honest with yourself first and others second, can be a challenge. Sometimes dishonesty is so second nature to the individual we must start at recognition before attempting to get to living honestly.
Self-deception is a part of our “sickness” and learning how to heal is crucial. James 5:16 tells us how to go about the healing process. James recommends we talk to one another about our brokenness. When we communicate our brokenness to each other and pray for each other, God says we will heal. In order for me to communicate my brokenness; however, I must be willing to be honest with myself. Often, to be honest with myself means that I have to be willing to accept some consequences. A level of denial does not grow on its own; denial takes shape when I behave in ways that produce shame. When I want to hide my behaviors, one way of doing that is to pretend they do not exist.
In recovery groups, the step of healing is the fifth step. Step 5 reads, “We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.” It is important to complete this step with diligence and integrity. Notice the words “the exact nature.” If we go about “coming clean” in the process of healing but minimize our shortcomings we only contribute to more dishonesty. Most people will discover that the wrongs they have done and buried do not “heal” with time. What heals the shame from the wrongs we have done (or sometimes done to us) is the open and honest confession with a trusted individual or loved one.
At our office in Loveland, Colorado, we work with clients daily as they look to heal from life’s hurts. It is not always easy but with guidance, our clients find their way out of denial to face the truth about themselves and their lives. The freedom they experience from owning their “stuff” is life changing. We have yet to hear one client say they wish they would have stayed in denial with all its dysfunction and hurt. If you could benefit from confessing and healing, call us at 970-381-4082. We look forward to continue our work, walking alongside our clients here at Rocky Mountain Neurotherapy and Counseling.
Rocky Mountain Neurotherapy & Counseling is located in Loveland, Colorado. We specialize in counseling, LENS treatments & helping you feel like yourself again. We hope you enjoyed our blog post above and welcome you to reach out with any questions or to see how we can help you.